In 1989 October was declared National Domestic Violence Month. Like domestic violence itself, I believe this is a lesser-known fact of life that deserves our attention. October is also breast cancer awareness month and there is so much attention and support for that (notable) cause. I mean, even a running back for a football team will adorn pink shoes for the cause. But why, when three women are murdered each day in a domestic attack by their boyfriends or husbands (Domestic Violence Information) do we not talk about (and raise funds to mitigate) this pervasive issue?
I am incredibly passionate about domestic violence. As a child I witnessed severe domestic violence in my home. Unfortunately, I have also experienced domestic violence in my own, early relationships (post to come). Now I see it daily in the work I do for the state. As a social worker, I see how domestic violence impacts communities and exists in EVERY community–regardless of age, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. The abuse rarely (if ever) stops at physical abuse. Instead, the abuser also employs emotional abuse and controlling behavior. The victim of domestic violence often experiences physical injury, psychological trauma, and sometimes death. The systematic pattern of domestic violence often acts as a generational curse that is repeated and accepted and some will experience it throughout their lifetime (from the same or multiple different perpetrators). Children who are exposed to domestic violence in the home, more often than not also experience physical abuse. These children are also at a significantly higher risk of developing mental and physical health problems in the future. And because hurt people hurt people, children who witness domestic violence in their youth are often more likely to be physically violent in their own relationships (the cycle continues). So why, with so many people impacted by domestic violence and the growing issue of abuse in the teen population don’t we talk about domestic violence? Domestic violence is often something that victims suffer with quietly. They may conceal marks and bruises with makeup or clothing. Or they may excuse or hide certain signs of controlling behavior. 9 out of 10 victims will not speak out on their attacks from their partner. The victims may be traumatized, scared, or even feel as though they deserved the abuse. But as a society, we can become more aware and contribute to ending this pervasive and devastating problem. We can be the village. We can trust our gut and ask questions. We can offer help and support. We can donate to causes or volunteer for events aiming to help those seeking to escape domestic violence. We can protect victims, support survivors and help create a world free of violence. “I raise my voice- not so that I can shout but so that those without a voice can be heard.” -Malala Until Next Monday...
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